AEM Podcast #75 Nicky Moxey | Third Culture Kids| ACES| Adverse Childhood Experiences| Military Brats| Boarding School Syndrome

An Evolving Man Podcast (AEM) #75

Nicky Moxey | Third Culture Kids| ACES|

Adverse Childhood Experiences| Military Brats|

Boarding School Syndrome for Women and Girls


What are third culture kids? And what about military brats? And how does that link to boarding schools?


Today I am speaking with author, Nicky Moxey about what third culture kids are.


Nicky grew up in Africa but was sent to boarding school in the UK.


She talks about the three different types of third culture kid - military, mercantile and missionary.


What is the difference between the three and why do third culture kids seem to struggle the most at boarding school?


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Nicky Moxey is an author, an amateur historian and archaeologist who lives in the middle of rural Suffolk, UK. She is currently writing and editing a book about boarding school and has published several historical fiction books.


Questions:


  1. I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?
  2. Could you please speak about your boarding school experiences. How was it for you? When did you fully realise the impact it had had on your life?
  3. Could you please talk about ACES, Adverse Childhood Experiences? What are they? What is the impact of them on children and the adults they become?
  4. Could you talk about the cross over between ACES and boarding school please? Is there any overlap and if so what is it?
  5. Could you please talk about Third Culture Kids. What does that mean?
  6. Could you please talk about your new book about boarding school? What is it about and what is the message of the book?
  7. Could you also please talk about the new book about boarding schools, The Trunk in the Hall by Penny Cavenaugh? What did you think about the book?
  8. How do people find out more about your work?



#aces #boardingschoolsyndrome #adversechildhoodexperiences #thirdculturekids #tck


To visit Nicky's website please visit: https://nickymoxey.com/

To buy Nicky's books please visit: https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=nicky+moxey&crid=98YVPH9QKK1O&sprefix=nicky+mox%2Caps%2C361&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_9

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