AEM Podcast #17 - Ben Cole - Transforming The Wound of Bullying - Tales of Boarding School Trauma & Healing

An Evolving Man Podcast #17  Ben Cole: Transforming The Wound of Bullying - Tales of Boarding School Trauma & Healing

Today I am speaking with Ben Cole on my podcast. This episode was a heart felt and for me a tearful one.


Ben is a storyteller, cinematographer and director and he uses this gift to really share a heart-renching and transformational story.


Ben shares how he attended boarding school from ages 11-13 in what was a really violent and unsafe environment.


He shares how he was bullied and how he started to learn to cope with the bullies - by listening.


For some viewers and listeners this episode might be upsetting and triggering.


It is not an easy story to hear.


Ben goes onto share how he has transformed this wound in the work that he now does with young offenders in the charity A Band of Brothers (ABOB).


By him sharing his story with these young men, they learn to trust him.


Of those young men that go through ABOB 86% stop offending and turn over a new leaf.


This is the power of story.


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I found this episode profoundly moving and touching.


Thank you Ben.


Some of the areas we covered:

  • His journey at boarding school and what went on with the bullying
  • How his parents responded to his pleas to come home.
  • How hurt people hurt people
  • How he feels being in service has been so healing for him
  • The power of the wound
  • How he has transformed this wound of bullying


For more information about his work and A Band of Brothers please visit:


https://abandofbrothers.org.uk/

http://bencolecinematographysite.com/

https://middleearthmedicine.com/


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Ben Cole is a film maker, documentary maker, and his filmography includes 1 Giant Leap and The Time of The Sixth Sun. He makes positive films about what it is like to be human. For him the ordinary man is the new guru. He was also an actor for 20 years. He also teaches the principles of the Mankind Project (MKP) of the 4 Archetypes. He also teaches The Wheel of Souls Return. He is also a mentor for A Band of Brothers which mentors young offenders.


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An Evolving Man (AEM) Podcast is for men (and women) who want to grow, evolve and want support in learning how to do this.

On a regular basis there will be an interview around men's topics ranging from self-development, relationships, spirituality, archetypes, trauma, boarding school and men's work featuring authors and leaders in this field.

The sense with these interviews is to support men during these times of change. What are the teachings, tools and practices that you can use to help you through these turbulent times?

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