AEM Podcast #68 - Wendy Capewell – The Impact of Childhood Trauma On Your Relationship & Your Communication

An Evolving Man Podcast AEM #68 -

Wendy Capewell

Psychotherapist & Counsellor: The Impact of Childhood Trauma On Your Relationship & Your Communication

How does childhood trauma impact our relationships? How might these symptoms of childhood trauma show up in our lives?


On today's podcast I am speaking with a leading counsellor and psychotherapist, Wendy Capewell about just this topic. Wendy Capewell shares some of her own experiences and stories to help illuminate how impactful trauma is in our lives and how it effects our relationships.


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Wendy Capewell is a fully qualified BACP Accredited Counsellor and Psychotherapist, with over 18 years of professional experience. She specialises in helping people with childhood trauma, anxiety, stress and relationships and was a volunteer Counsellor at a Rape and Sexual Abuse Centre for 5 years . She is the author of the book Surviving to Thriving in Relationships



Questions to ask:


  1. I would love for you to share how you got into the work that you now do?
  2. Could you please talk about childhood trauma. What is it and how does it impact firstly a child and then the adult they become?
  3. How does trauma show up in relationships?
  4. If we are struggling in relationships what are some of the things that you teach your clients to improve their relationships?
  5. How do we improve communication in a relationship? What are some of the keys to good communication?
  6. What can we do if we struggle to connect to our emotions in relationships? How do we learn to reconnect to our emotional household?
  7. Could you please speak to anxiety. What is the underlying cause of anxiety? What are some of the key ways you teach others to help them to manage their anxiety?
  8. Could you please talk to strategies to protect ourselves from being vulnerable?
  9. How do people find out more about your work?


#relationships #trauma #childhoodtrauma


To reach out to Wendy please visit her website: https://www.wendycapewell.co.uk/



To buy her book please visit: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Surviving-Thriving-Romantic-Relationship-Reignite-ebook/dp/B01MRZDEJB/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2Z6O93C7XGH4M&keywords=wendy+capewell&qid=1686745415&sprefix=wendy+capewell%2Caps%2C636&sr=8-2


And to listen to her podcast please go to: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Listen-Talk-Repeat-Podcast-with-Wendy-Capewell/dp/B08JK2D3NL/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Wendy+Capewell&qid=1686745457&sr=8-1


For the Feeling Wheel: https://allthefeelz.app/feeling-wheel/ 


And the Ted X Talk with Jane Evans: https://youtu.be/qKlzd-H2X9w



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