AEM Podcast #63 - Shahid Van Helden – Intimacy | Porn Addiction | Sex | Trauma | What is Tantra | Men

An Evolving Man Podcast AEM #63 -

Shahid Van Helden 

Intimacy | Porn Addiction | Sex |

Trauma | What is Tantra | Men

In this episode of the podcast I have a fascinating conversation with Shahid Van Helden who is a men's sexuality teacher talking about tantra, sex, porn addiction and intimacy.


He also talks about presence and the three things that we need to do as men to become more present.


He also share some ideas for how we improve our love-making and our sex lives.


A really fascinating conversation.


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Shahid Van Helden is a men's group, men's & couples' retreat and Tantra facilitator. Shahid has also trained in Tantra Massage & Bodywork. He runs couples retreats with his beloved, Shashi Solluna.



Some areas to talk about:


  1. I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?
  2. Could you please talk a little about Tantra. What is it?
  3. If you are a man who has been through trauma or a dysfunctional upbringing especially regarding sex, how do we start to heal that?
  4. It is said in personal development circles that it is women who do most of the inner work. How do we as men step up and start to examine our inner workings?
  5. How do we cultivate presence?
  6. How can we as men be vulnerable and not collapse?
  7. Some men feel that they are not good enough especially regarding sex. What would you advise someone who comes to you with this problem?
  8. Dissociation. Through trauma a man comes to you who has dissociated, especially in sex. They're always in their head. What are some of the practices that you teach men to be more embodied?
  9. What do you suggest for men who have no ability for intimacy and no perceptible sex drive?
  10. How do people learn more about your work or reach out?



To learn more about Shahid's work please visit: https://www.masteringtheartoflove.com/


Or to learn more about his couples work with his partner Shashi Solluna please visit: https://www.thetantriccouple.com/ or https://www.livetantra.com/


To learn more about Shahid's work please visit: https://www.masteringtheartoflove.com/


Or to learn more about his couples work with his partner Shashi Solluna please visit: https://www.thetantriccouple.com/ or https://www.livetantra.com/


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